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Post by TQlovababy on Sept 22, 2004 8:38:59 GMT -5
Okay here's the deal:
Me and my man have been together for about 3 months. He tells me that I need to lose some weight in order to be healthy. He says that he would be more physically attracted to me. And it kind of hurts because I don't tell him to go gain weight because i think that he is too skinny. I told him that it shouldn't matter if he loved me, but he tells me that it kind of does.
What ya'll think? I mean, if he really cared about me, should it matter that much?
-love mandy
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Post by Maudizzle on Sept 22, 2004 11:23:18 GMT -5
dump him  |
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Post by magictouch on Sept 22, 2004 11:37:12 GMT -5
Girl, you need to let that one go. If a person truly loves and cares about another person, it shouldn't matter that they have a few extra pounds or whatever the case may be. You look like a beautiful person in your pic and never let someone tell you different. Trust me, I was with my soon to be ex-husband, since I was 13 years old. When I got pregnant with our daughter, I obviously gained weight. Well it took me awhile to loose most of it and then cause he was such a dog, he was cheating and stressin me the hell out bad, so my doctor put me on anti-depressants. Well because of them I gained weight and he started calling me thick chick and stupid, demeaning names like that to break me down. I only weighed 140 when he was doing all that. Needless to say, I let his a$s go, filed for a divorce, lost my weight (I weigh 120 pounds now) and am happier now than I have been in the 12 years we were together. No person deserves to be treated badly, put down or told sh!t like your man is doing. You are much better than that and deserve much better than that. There is a man out there who will love you and accept you as you are regardless if he is real and true about you, his feelings for you and the relationship you share together. K, now I rambled on for like forever, but for real, your better off to let that one go.  Bj |
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Post by Tqslittlelady on Sept 22, 2004 14:09:17 GMT -5
Girl, you need to let that one go. If a person truly loves and cares about another person, it shouldn't matter that they have a few extra pounds or whatever the case may be. You look like a beautiful person in your pic and never let someone tell you different. Trust me, I was with my soon to be ex-husband, since I was 13 years old. When I got pregnant with our daughter, I obviously gained weight. Well it took me awhile to loose most of it and then cause he was such a dog, he was cheating and stressin me the hell out bad, so my doctor put me on anti-depressants. Well because of them I gained weight and he started calling me thick chick and stupid, demeaning names like that to break me down. I only weighed 140 when he was doing all that. Needless to say, I let his a$s go, filed for a divorce, lost my weight (I weigh 120 pounds now) and am happier now than I have been in the 12 years we were together. No person deserves to be treated badly, put down or told sh!t like your man is doing. You are much better than that and deserve much better than that. There is a man out there who will love you and accept you as you are regardless if he is real and true about you, his feelings for you and the relationship you share together. K, now I rambled on for like forever, but for real, your better off to let that one go. Bj AMen to that! Mandy u gotta dump his sorrow a$s.. no boy should tell u you're fat when you so are not.. he should love u because of who you are.. i gained a lot of weight while i was with my exbf, and he was always telling me i looked beautiful to him, although i knew at moments i didn't.. so plz dump him..you deserve better! |
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Post by lilheartq on Sept 23, 2004 4:26:53 GMT -5
Ok then tell me something! After having 3 gurls right I lost weight but i gained some b/c of stress from neighbors tripping so i stayed inside and never went out and now hubby is like you need to lose weight and go walking. WTF? OK im a good person. I did. I went walking for 3 hrs a night with my discman. But see hubby is gaining a stomach and won't do the same when i asked him too. And he knows if im going walking he can come and hes like well you didn't invite us to go. WTF? I feel like i live in another world when im home. Can't wait to get out u know? I practically kick everyone out to school and work in the mornings to get some peace. Needless to say I have lost 15 pounds and am very happy with myself. ;D
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Post by Tqslittlelady on Sept 23, 2004 12:26:47 GMT -5
Ok then tell me something! After having 3 gurls right I lost weight but i gained some b/c of stress from neighbors tripping so i stayed inside and never went out and now hubby is like you need to lose weight and go walking. WTF? OK im a good person. I did. I went walking for 3 hrs a night with my discman. But see hubby is gaining a stomach and won't do the same when i asked him too. And he knows if im going walking he can come and hes like well you didn't invite us to go. WTF? I feel like i live in another world when im home. Can't wait to get out u know? I practically kick everyone out to school and work in the mornings to get some peace. Needless to say I have lost 15 pounds and am very happy with myself. ;D Good on you!!! |
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Post by magictouch on Sept 23, 2004 21:14:49 GMT -5
It's good to hear you are feeling better about you. I'm sorry to hear you feel the way you do though when you are home.  That should be like your santuary and where you always feel good and comfortable. Keep doin your thing girl. ;D |
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Post by TKay on Sept 24, 2004 0:07:01 GMT -5
A guy should never tell his gf that she needs to lose some weight. (Even though it is way healthy)
That ain´t good for the relationship.
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Post by Maudizzle on Sept 24, 2004 3:24:35 GMT -5
A guy should never tell his gf that she needs to lose some weight. (Even though it is way healthy) That ain´t good for the relationship. Why not? If she would be 900 pounds why can't you say something about it? |
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Post by Tqslittlelady on Sept 24, 2004 6:58:25 GMT -5
Why not? If she would be 900 pounds why can't you say something about it? mauz mandy is skinny.. no need for anyone to tell her she's thick |
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Post by Maudizzle on Sept 24, 2004 7:08:26 GMT -5
mauz mandy is skinny.. no need for anyone to tell her she's thick where did i say mandy is thick?  i was just replying to what tkay said... if your girl is really overweight and you care about her, why can't you say something about it? it's not necessarily a bad thing when you say something about it cause you jsut want her to be healthier and live longer. what mandy's bf said is just not right though.. if he says he loves her (kind of) more if she loses weight, she needs to break up with him. it's what magic touch said: "If a person truly loves and cares about another person, it shouldn't matter that they have a few extra pounds or whatever the case may be" |
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Post by Jen on Sept 24, 2004 7:30:21 GMT -5
I think that if someone is really overweight it is best to tell that someone that, but then they have to be obese, so it's like a health hazard.
I think that being too skinny ain't nice so i don't really see what the problem is.
Also as long as u like urself don't worry bout what anybody else is saying, u'r great the way u are, luve urself and dump that dumba$s, have some selfrespect. Don't ever let anybody that claims they luve ya put u down like that, because someone that luves ya should never say that.
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Post by TKay on Sept 24, 2004 7:30:54 GMT -5
I bet that your gf would be fu©king upset if you tell her that she has to lose weight. No matter if she weights 900 pounds. (WTF: 900 pounds... you won´t have a bf with 900 pounds. How should that work?) If you want your gf to be healthier, you can ask her to do some sports with you or whateva. But never tell your gf, she´s too thick. No sex for a long, long time... j/k  |
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Post by Maudizzle on Sept 24, 2004 7:38:24 GMT -5
I bet that your gf would be fu©king upset if you tell her that she has to lose weight. No matter if she weights 900 pounds. (WTF: 900 pounds... you won´t have a bf with 900 pounds. How should that work?) If you want your gf to be healthier, you can ask her to do some sports with you or whateva. But never tell your gf, she´s too thick. No sex for a long, long time... j/k naw.. i guess it really depends on how you say it. if someone's 900 pounds (which is nearly impossible LOL) do you think that person doesn't know him-/herself that (s)he's fat? but like i said man, if you love her you won't break up with her because of her weight. |
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Post by TKay on Sept 24, 2004 7:42:57 GMT -5
In my opinion, the weight is nothing to trip about. I swear every girl would kick your a$s...
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